Tragedy is defined as "an event causing great suffering, destruction, and distress, such as a serious accident, crime, or natural catastrophe."
When I try to think about the tragedies in my life, I really haven't experienced any personal tragedies. I have experienced things that could have been considered tragedies by some...a miscarriage, the flooding of my home from a hurricane and the accidental death of my grandmother, but none of these events affected me in a way that caused great suffering, destruction, or distress.
The great suffering and distress associated with tragic events is relative to each person. How we deal with pain is different. Something that might be tragic to you, might not be tragic to me. When I had a miscarriage in 1998, I was distraught. The thought of losing the baby, that my husband and I were so excited to have in our lives, did a number on me. I did suffer for a short time, but I wouldn't call it "great suffering." I very quickly began to heal and get on with life. Other people miscarry and never get past it. They suffer for the remainder of their lives. Maybe it's a choice. Maybe it's how we're wired. How one views a tragedy definitely impacts the level of suffering and distress one feels.
Sounds to me that you have a brave soul, and may be just blessed with the reasoning of acceptance. I envy you for that because I'm much more emotional, for example, if I were to ever experience a miscarriage like yourself, I imagine that I may be disturbed to the point of tragedy. The bottom line seems as though you are just naturally a strong person, and lucky at that!
ReplyDeleteThank you for your kind words. I am also a very emotional person, but in that circumstance, I knew that I needed to move past the loss, to move forward in my life. I kind of had to put up a wall about the miscarriage and look at it scientifically...so many things have to go right in the development of a baby that it's a miracle every time one succeeds in developing and being born. Looking at it from this viewpoint helped me to understand that I was just as likely to have a healthy child in the future.
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