In all this talk about eroticism, a question came to my mind. Some of the eroticism posts have mentioned that eroticism occurs between two people...an erotic "giver"(stimuli) and a receiver. While I completely agree that this is the norm, I wondered, can you experience eroticism by yourself? Can you be both the stimulus and the receiver?
I think you can. Think about how you feel on your worst day. You know, the day when you drag yourself out of bed, after hitting the snooze button three times. The day when you don't have time to shower, put on your face or do your hair. You look in the mirror and there is absolutely nothing sexy going on.
But what about those other days, when you put your best foot forward. The day when you get praise at work for a job well done. The day when people turn their heads as you walk in the door. Look in the mirror then and tell me that the exuding of confidence that you've experienced, is not making you feel like a sexy beast!
I am the textbook definition of non-sexy. I'm a 47 year old woman, who's pudgy with stretch marks as reminders of the three wonderful children I've birthed; wrinkled, scarred skin from a decade of sun worshipping in my 20's and several pairs of "mom" jeans. But I also have a lot of life experiences that have made me feel worthy and confident. I look in the mirror and when I look hard enough, behind my trifocals, I see the sexy. When I see that sexy, I feel erotic...then I find my husband of 25 years and his smile, upon seeing me, reminds me that he is not the only receiver of my eroticism.
Too much information? Maybe, but I want to help you. This stuff that can take years to learn. Live it now and see what I mean. :)
Very good perspective! I think it's important for all of us to find what makes us erotic to others (no matter how weird that sounds). So are you saying that people can find others erotic based solely off their love for the other person? Cause that's awesome!
ReplyDeleteYes, I do feel that love is an important component in eroticism, but my position is more so that self confidence and feeling good about yourself, can be erotic to yourself. Essentially, if you feel good about yourself, you'll feel sexy and that will turn you on. You both exuded (gave) eroticism and received it.
ReplyDeleteThis is a very interesting way to look at eroticism. I never once thought about how eroticism can occur within yourself. I also like that you included in your post that life experiences that make "flaws" on you physically, is not actually flaws. That those are just stories to remind you of how confident and strong you have been in the past. This is a really awesome post. Nicely done!
ReplyDeleteI never would've thought that confidence could have something to do with the erotic, but it makes sense that feeling good would make you feel erotic. Good post!
ReplyDeleteEroticism can be a self inflicted feeling. We all have that moment where we look at ourselves in the mirror and thing that we are the sexiest thing alive
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